The collective person will share with you but it is not necessarily personal.
The individual person will do his own thing and this may empower you
(But they're probably too busy doing his thing to care about either side).
So for these two circuits it is not very possessive.
When you get to the tribal circle it gets very sticky.
The tribe does not engage in sharing with you,
and does not care if you are qualified as an individual.
What they care about is what kind of support the relationship has.
It is the tribe that says:
"If you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours."
For tribal circles,
the main key is the word support.
And for support to occur you need,
to get close enough to smell them.
Also, in order for scratches to be scratched,
you must be first with a back,
And this is the next point to be understood in the tribal circle:
it is about existence.
"My wife supports me" could only say a tribal man.
A lone person would find this statement suffocating,
And a collective man will talk about the liberation of women.
But for a tribal person it works.
The tribe is the most intimate of the circles in terms of the senses:
body odors, touch, taste, etc.
For example,
the family recipe provided as a form of family identity.
or the handshake to seal a deal.
Or the blood relationship between best friends.
Comments about the guy out of town who "smells funny."
All this in the tribal realm.
But the most important thing to remember is,
that this is a transaction that promises support.
"I will clean the house and feed the children,
if you go out to work to make money for the family."
Without this kind of doing we would not have survived.
Support is a two-way street.
Nothing is free.
Nothing comes without a price.
The collective may share with you,
and expect nothing but someone who is willing to accept the sharing.
But if a tribal person gives you something,
You better have something to give in return or you're in trouble.
This is called DEAL.
The deal can be sealed in many ways.
It can be cultural,
like bringing gifts to a birthday party.
This could be a handshake,
signing a contract or kissing a wedding ceremony.
But once the deal was signed,
The tribe expects both sides to continue in the end,
Otherwise the support falls apart.
To understand this thought of the 21st Gate,
as the one who gathers the resources from the 26th Gate,
And distributes them to the 45th and 40th gates.
26 work hard and give the profits to 21,
Who turns 40 and says:
"I will buy all the ingredients and feed you,
if you donate the work to build the community."
Having invested some money in building the community,
The rest of the profit will reach 45.
If it works well,
everyone fills the deal,
and everyone gets the cut.